Are we most susceptible to taking advice from our own selves?
Is that the reason we have to evolve our sense of understanding, expand it?
So that, with experience (self or borrowed), we are able to give our own selves better suggestions?
Are we most convinced by our own logic?
Can we muscle out of the mind-space we occupy, and genuinely entertain another perspective?
How long does it take to change? The mind, the action, the belief that thoughts step out from and flutter around till we actually do something different from patterns of the past.
Who do we allow, in?
Whose thoughts are we most affected by?
Whose opinion?
Whose perspective?
Whose belief is allowed in, to vibrate deeper and actually mull over.
One, is someone we admire... for qualities that we decide to admire and want to emulate.
What are those deeply personal definitions of admirable qualities?
What is heroic?
Does everyone even want to be heroic? good? better? better outwardly or inwardly?
Better than someone outside or better than past me?
Of course, an understanding of goodness is deeply personal.
There aren't just two sides, there are millions... most of which we are unfamiliar with, in ourselves and others.
If we don't think about changing, we can be so oblivious to recognising it.
If you think you know yourself and you're satisfied with that assessment, that may be true for a while... but since change is inevitable, at some point, the version of you, that you know, will become the past you that flickered around before being affected into transforming into another being.. with new thoughts, responses, tendencies.
Knowing ones own self is a continuous process. Perhaps that's why it's easier to put others in boxes, keep them neatly categorised for years, for decades... Easier, than admitting the unfamiliarity in even the closest relationship-one's own with oneself.
Habits are such an easy way to delude oneself into thinking "I'm still the same", the world has changed.
What is read, eaten, done as employment... if they're the same-ish, surrounded by the same people, you can feel the same. Even if, if you're honest, you no longer respond the same way to what you're eating, drinking, reading or working with and around.
Maybe that's why some people love to travel, such an obvious way of enjoying a change, something different, before we go back to what looks like the same life.
I definitely like travelling, and mainly any destination by a welcoming water body.. I also deeply enjoy recollecting the best, most peaceful memories travel has bestowed.
But it's not a trigger for change, maybe we just notice it more easily after an outward journey.
A mini-milestone of sorts, a pause, to notice different patterns.
Are we all searching for the same thing?
